Letting go of your “gym class” past

 

Maybe you were picked last for capture the flag.  Maybe you hated changing into your dreaded gym uniform. Maybe it was performing pull-ups while the ENTIRE class watched. Or, perhaps it was that one kid –a bully — who launched a foam dodgeball at your face when you were tying your laces. Sadly, we can all most certainly remember a moment from our Physical Education experience that wasn’t pleasant. **I promise to share my thoughts in a future post on how the world of physical education pedagogy is changing (thanks goodness!). For now, I’m wondering if some of you are struggling to take a group fitness class, join a recreational team, or simply start working out because you are holding on to a fear of embarassement or bad memory from your early years?

If the answer is “yes”, then let’s take a few minutes to talk about why you simply need to let go and how to do just that.

As we all know, holding onto things, especially traumatic events, never does anyone any good. Eventually, the issue will resurface and rear it’s ugly head in some way. Time and time again that fear can hold us back from participating in social and health-focused events, even fundraisers or charity events that we’d like to be a part of simply because we don’t feel “ready” or fit enough to participate. Now, as gently as I can say this —  If you truly desire to become a more active, healthy, and fit human being, you’re going to have to get over it. I mean that in the nicest way possible. It’s time to take a deep breath, let it out, and give yourself new start. Leave the memory or fear behind you — start fresh!

Here are some thoughts to help you get started.

  1. It’s ok to be a beginner. We all must start somewhere. IMG_6218There will only be one time in a fitness class that is your FIRST time. No one, especially a good instructor, will expect you to know what you are doing. The best thing you can do is tell your instructor that you are new to the class. Most instructors really appreciate knowing this and they will be better able to assist you.
  2. Find a place that’s comfortable. Try out a few gyms, studios, or trainers and see where you feel comfortable. Look for an environment that supports “newbies”. If you are not sure where to look in your area, contact me for a consult.
  3. Surround yourself with supportive people. friends
    Hang out with people who support your desire for self-improvement. These people should be positive influences and positive people. It’s great if you can find a friend or co-worker to buddy up with on a fitness journey.
  4. Think positively. You have no time for negative vibes if you are looking to become a CONFIDENT health-focused person. While it’s completely normal to have bad days, you mustn’t let negative moments or pessimistic people distract your from your goals. Getting a journal can help you to work out any frustrations that crop up and many are filled with positive quotes to help you along the way. You can try barnesandnoble.com for these. If you are interested specifically in running, my friends at Gone for Run make great journals!
  5. Keep track of your progress. Piggy backing off of the previous comment. Journaling is a nice way to keep track of your progress. Specific to weight loss and increasing fitness levels, many people find motivation by taking selfies along their journey (* you do not need to post selfies online for the world to see but some do and this helps them. Different strokes for different folks!). Photo-journaling allows one to see the physical changes as they are happening over time. This may not be for everyone but I do feel that combing these methods (personal journaling and pictures) over time does give people the ressaureance and confidence that they’re working towards.
  6. BONUS: Get involved! I’ve added this last one because it simply cannot be left out. There are an enormous number of incredible charitable and philanthropic fitness related events that are nothing short of AMAZING. By signing up and participating in these events, you are helping others improve their health while also working on your own goals. image1I have participated for many years in Cycle for Survival, an indoor cycling and fundraising event sponsored by Equinox that donates to cancer research for Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center. This October, I am over the moon to be participating in an incredible event through Movemeant Foundation called Dare to Bare. I will be cycling with some incredible Soul Cycle instructors in the middle of Union Square in New York City. IMG_5852Movemeant Foundation helps young women feel confident about their bodies by empowering them with the tools they need to be active through “positive mentorship, engaging content about health, nutrition and well-being, and grants that make fitness and physical movement a reality.” To learn more about this event and/or sign up, click here.

So now that we’ve talked a little bit about letting go, what will you do to move forward?

 

Need assistance getting started? Contact me for a consultation or email me directly at mindbodybespoke@gmail.com. Personalized wellness coaching may be exactly what you need to get started !

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3-2-1 Takeoff!

MBB_Logo_FinalI am so excited to publish the first post on my new website, MindBodyBespoke.com! If you are reading this, chances are you’ve already been following me on Instagram and have witnessed the incredible traction and excitement that has been brewing with Mind Body Bespoke. Thank you for your support! I’m going to use this post to tell you a little bit about how Mind Body Bespoke has come to be.

If you know me personally, you know that I tend to be a bit hyper active when it comes to physical activity. I’m not great at sitting still or laying around. On the beach, forget it! I’ll be throwing the football, jumping into swells, and trying to convince ANYONE to play Pro Kadima with me. A couple of rainy days stuck in the house and it’s not pretty…. I’ve always been this way! As a child I was incredibly active. I grew up in Southeast Asia prior to moving back to the United States in 1998 and living in the tropics allowed for me to spend countless hours outside doing what kids to do best, play! IMG_0154This love for physical activity has deep roots in my soul, it is a part of me to need to move, to feel strong and able, and to enjoy PLAY. This love for movement is what led me to pursue a career in Physical Education. While teaching levels K-10 as well as serving as a coach on various sports teams, I was able to share my passion with children and young adults. I lived and breathed all things physical education. I felt strongly about busting negative PE memories and tried desperately to squash stereotypes of inconsiderate “gym” teachers. I wanted my students to feel the joy of movement, the excitement of trying something new, and the pride of doing something you thought you couldn’t. When a student said, “I can’t”, I said, “You can.” Encouragement and empowerment has always be my strong suit. I BELIEVE in people.

For seven years I taught physical education classes and health education courses. During this time, I dove further into my interest of “health” as a discipline. I read books and articles, attended workshops, and conversed with others in the field. I applied fitness and diet trends to my own life, wanting to see if claims were legitimate and what was was just hype. I was living and breathing all things health and wellness, and it felt good, it felt like my calling. It was natural. It was RIGHT.

Well, life happens, no literally – LIFE HAPPENS. I became pregnant in theIMG_2014 spring of 2013 with my son. My husband and I moved out of New York City to Ithaca, NY where he attended Cornell University’s Johnson School to get his MBA. For the first time in my life I was to gain weight on purpose! My body was about to go through some pretty serious changes – I was excited but of course nervous. Naturally, my response was to immerse myself in pregnancy health and fitness. I read MORE books and articles. I committed to regular prenatal yoga. I ate well and exercised regularly. In a nutshell, I was still me, just with a little bun in the oven! I enjoyed my pregnancy and felt committed to taking care of myself. After all, it was my duty. A family friend said something that stuck with me, “ You are a mother the moment you get pregnant.” That was cemented into my brain. Everything I did was going to directly affect another person’s life….my baby’s life. That was incredibly motivating for me to stick to my healthy ways. In addition, I can say with absolute certainty that having a fit pregnancy had everything to do with my ability to “bounce back” after my son’s birth. Nothing felt new or overwhelming, I didn’t need to commit to some crazy diet or intensely focus on weight loss. I had the habits and just kept them going (of course with patience and a little more ooomph!).

Months began to pass. Months of pure JOY sprinkled with sleep deprivation and spit up. During this time I received a lot of feedback and questions about my pregnancy and my new life as a #fitmama. I loved sharing my tips with other women! And after my sons first birthday, I realized that I was really missing what I loved about teaching physical education — motivating and inspiring others to live a healthy and active life. With the launch of my Instagram and the positive feedback that followed, I quickly realized there was no turning back, Mind Body Bespoke, my wellness coaching business was born.

So grab your green juice, coffee, coconut water or heck, cocktail (!), and have a toast with me to kicking off the launch of my new site, MindBodyBespoke.com, the place where you will always find positivity and support, education, and motivation for your wellness journey.

Wishing you health and happiness,

Frances  

Check out my official launch video here!